Put Up a Firewall Against SPAM

When you woke up this morning, what did you start thinking about? Can’t remember? Was it something about what you need to get done today and in what order? Was it something about what you needed to get done yesterday and didn’t? Was it a simple, “5 more minutes please”?


For most of us, our thoughts are usually on a bit of a runaway train. We wake up and the train starts whipping down the tracks and we’re trying desperately to hang on. We set the alarm until the last possible minute, fly out of bed and make the coffee and check the phone and jump in the shower and the ride begins.

What if you woke up and you DECIDED what to start thinking about? And what if that thought centered around joy and where and how you can find it? We challenge you to stop and listen to what you are thinking about and saying to yourself in your head. You know that voice that always seems to have something to say in every situation? You’re getting ready and styling your hair and it says, “Yeah it’s a bad hair day today.” Or you put your favorite slacks on and it says, “What is going on with your rear end?” And it’s always keeping you on task, “Don’t forget to make that appointment” or “What in the world are we doing for dinner?”

Stop. Listen. Listen to that voice and hear what it’s saying. Is it saying, “Figures I picked this line. It’s the longest!” or “I never seem to say the right thing.” What if you challenged it? “I bet all the lines have their delays” or “I think what I said was just fine.” Research shows that this voice, what Dr. Susan Jeffers in Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway calls the “chatterbox”, can do a lot more harm than good. But the great news is YOU control that voice, not the other way around, and the more you challenge it the better you’ll feel.

Activity: Today’s activity is designed to help you build awareness around that critical voice inside, address it with self-compassion, and take back control of your thoughts.

  • Notice what you are saying to yourself in your head throughout the day.

  • Write those sentences down. When you write them down and speak them aloud, you’ll realize you should be kinder to yourself.

  • Note that others experience these same thoughts. Write the statement “I am not alone in my pain. Other people have these same thoughts.” You are not alone.

  • Change the sentences and deliver them in a way that you would to someone you really love. That’s the voice you should be hearing in your head. Make that voice kinder, more accepting and encouraging.

  • Write down your changed sentences. The more you practice, the more natural it will become. The goal is to treat yourself and speak to yourself the way you would want to speak to the love of your life.